The Waiting Game

When is it time to stop playing the waiting game?

So many times have I heard my girls

say, I called him 5 hours ago and he just now is returning my call with a text. How many times do I have to call him beforehe calls me back? I want to go out with him this weekend but he isn’t giving me a straight answer nor is he picking up my calls, WTH! Well ladies, sorry to say but you need to stop playing his game and start doing and being your own women. This means do the things that YOU want to do and start then looking at your significant other as a person if YOU BOTH have time he can fit in YOUR schedule.

Let’s look at some facts here. I have always

been taught and found true that a man is going to spend time with whom and what he wants, when he wants. This is not something new that women haven’t heard before, so why don’t we act accordingly. I say stop creating this imaginary relationship in your head of how you want it to be or how you think it should be and take it for what it is.

It doesn’t take men that long to know what it takes to keep a woman around or keep them happy. With that being said, as a women you should now when you are being seen as someone he just wants to keep around until he finds that “someone better” he feels that he can find, and when he is really trying. For a woman this is hard, trust me I know, but you really need to know who to act accordingly and

not think with so much emotion and use more logic. Men have this down packed but women, man o man, you make a women feel like you have no time for them you can get them tires slashed and windows busted at the drop of a dime, but hey who really has time for that. BUT there is help for us women! Not only will this help you keep your sanity but really this is how it should be, men do this all the time. Here is the secret, have your own life and do what you enjoy doing without depending on another

person to give happiness to your life.

Now you may say whatever I do that, that’s common sense. That could very well be true but just be realistic about your situations right now. Let me quickly tell ya how this works. Let’s say you have someone you are trying to get to know/be with and you guys have made plans, but for some odd reason when it is time to do what you planned all of a sudden they are MIA(missing in action). Don’t sit there and call and call and call making excuses and so forth. Always have a plan B. It’s not being mean or an a*hole but just have a plan because if not you sit there and start to let your mind create all type of crazy things. BUT if you have something else to do you learn to deal with the situation

when its time and you don’t feel like your time is wasted. When he finally calls and you here his story

you can either accept it, or say hey this aint workin cause I see a pattern and I want something different.

Same with the phone calls. Don’t sit there

waiting all day for someone to call you and when they don’t get upset. And then when they don’t call you, you are calling them. If someone waits 2-3 days to call you and you constantly calling them you should really see where you stand. Have your own life. If you have a life and do things that you enjoy doing your really not gonna be waiting every second by the phone calling someone then being upset and feeling like someone is wasting your time. You may see this as a game, but it’s really just realizing the importance of your life and your happiness, and learning you don’t need to depend on the opposite sex.

On another note though, once

someone sees that hey, you see your time as valuable and you’re not gonna sit there and wait for them to get it together.. this pushes a little sense of urgency on

their part. If a man feels you not going anywhere he will continue to do what he does because he feels he need not put in any work cause you will always be there sitting and waiting. BUT if you have your own life and there is room for you to either find someone that will make the time you, for another man to show you he has time for you, or for you to

realize that he may not be all you want/need him to be NOW he has to Sh*t or

get off the pot.